Location: Santa Cruz

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CODEPENDENT NO MORE SKILLS & PROCESS GROUP - Mondays 5:30-7:00 pm

This group is for adults looking to recover from codependent behaviors and emotional reactivity in a collaborative setting that includes learning and practicing skills as well as processing together. The group will follow the format of the Codependent No More workbook and each week the group will learn a new skill as well as process together how codependency and recovery from codependency is impacting their lives. All potential members need to be assessed prior to joining this group. This group will be run by Ashleigh. 

If you aren't sure if you struggle with codependency, some tell-tale signs of codependency include, but are not limited to, the following traits: 

  • the tendency to "people please" at the expense of your own needs, wants, and well-being

  • difficulty discerning what feels right to you when in the presence of other people's opinions

  • perfectionism

  • the tendency to worry and ruminate if you think you've "made a mistake"

  • a sense of urgency to "make things right" with people

  • a tendency to over-apologize

  • a sense of emptiness or lack of direction when attempting to focus on your own endeavors but/and a felt sense of clarity and purpose when focusing on the lives others

  • putting others on a pedestal

  • putting others "below" you

  • consistently comparing yourself to others

  • avoiding challenging interpersonal situations in order to avoid difficult feelings or experiences

  • "overthinking" interpersonal situations

  • making up entire conversations with other people in your head but/and difficulty engaging in the actual conversation with the other person

  • making assumptions about what other people's intentions are without checking out those assumptions

  • "taking things too personally" in relationships at school, at work, or at home

  • forming alliances and enemies and/or gossipping in tight-knit communities (such as at work, at school, in your family, or group of friends)

  • consistently care-taking the needs of others, including their emotional, physical, and financial needs, while neglecting your own self-care and wellness

  • suicidal or self-harming reactivity when feeling abandoned or rejected by another person

Please go to the page describing process addictions for more information on RtW's understanding of what codependency is and looks like. 

"CODEPENDENCY CAN ROB A PERSON OF THEIR SENSE OF AGENCY AND CHOICES AND LEAVE THEM FEELING LIKE A CORK BEING TOSSED AROUND IN SOMEONE ELSE'S OCEAN."